How to be a good father
Having a child is one of the most beautiful things we could experience during our lifetime. It truly changes our perspective on life. Sadly, children don’t come with an instruction manual. Each stage of a child’s development presents its very own challenge. So, the best that we can do as our children grow, is to reinvent ourselves.
We all wish to be perfect fathers, but there is no such thing as perfection as we are only human.
Having said all of the above, please read this short article on How to be a good father:
Be an example
If you don’t want your children adopting bad habits or behaviors that you have, you already know what not to do. Make a commitment to yourself to become a better person and get rid of your bad habits. Remember that you are also a life teacher to them. It is your duty to educate your children and prepare them for the challenges that they will most likely face in different stages of their life.
Also, Do not make promises that you will not able to fulfill. If you are true to your word, you are teaching them the value of integrity.
Spend quality time with them
What better way of demonstrating that you really care for them? Your work schedule should not be an issue. Remember that you work to live; you should not live to work. If you have financial issues, get it fixed. You must know that time is more important than money, why? What happens if you run out of money? You will get over it unless you are mentally weak. However, if you run out of time, you will have nothing left.
Spend quality time with your family. If money is an issue, at least take them for a walk. Get involved in everything related to their life, there is no such thing as mom duties. Remember that the bond that you create with your children will have an enormous impact on their future.
Discipline with care
We were once children. We know from experience that taking away privileges hurts more than a spanking. For toddlers, there is something called “time-outs”. It is very effective if you are persistent. Be flexible and communicative with your children, that way it will be hard for them to do something that would make you feel mad or sad.
When your child does something wrong, provide guidance and advise them that for each action there is a consequence.
Let them be themselves
As children grow, they figure out what they like or not, and what is good or bad. As a responsible parent, you will always be present for them in case they get to close to danger. But you must them be themselves. Let them figure things out by themselves. That does not mean that you should let do whatever they want, you still have to draw the boundaries that they should not cross. If you have small children let them choose the toys that they want and the sports that they would like to practice.
Give them the freedom to be what they want to be and you will have happy children.
If you think a man will be less “manly” by showing emotion, you are wrong. You must let your children must know that you love them. You must hug, kiss and praise them when an opportunity presents. By showing affection, you are promoting a healthy and positive relationship. Your kids will also develop that beautiful habit and they will carry it to their adulthood. Also, don’t be afraid to apologize when you make a mistake.
And last but not least, respect their mother at all times and show affection toward her. Remember that they will mimic your actions.
Also read: 6 reasons why you should smile more
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